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In 1975, the documentary Grey Gardens was released.  It followed the lives of Edith (Big Edie) Beale and Edith (Little Edie) Beale, a mother and daughter who, in their prime, had been part of the extremely wealthy class that summered in East Hampton.  (They were aunt and first cousin to Jackie Kennedy Onassis). The family owned a “summer home” (i.e., mansion) there called Grey Gardens.  As Mr. Beale left Mrs. Beale, then died, she was left alone in the house with only her daughter, and nearly no money.  The house began to fall apart, they were hoarding cats, feeding the raccoons living in the walls and attics, and they sealed themselves off completely from the outside world.

In this film, the documentarians did something that was very unusual for documentaries of the time: they pointed the camera and let the people on screen tell the story in a style known as direct cinema, a style that was pioneered by the directors of the film.  Essentially, “It is said to rely on an agreement among the filmmaker, subjects, and audience to act as if the presence of the camera does not (substantially) alter the recorded event.” (http://www.greygardensonline.com/documentary.html)

The documentary plops you right down in the middle of these women’s lives, without giving you any back story, explanation, or exposition.  You watch these two women, who are a product of an era and lifestyle that no longer exists, living in absolute squalor and bickering constantly.  The only inking that the audience gets about why they live the way they do, or why they are the way they are, is through the women’s explanation as they tell it in the present time.  There’s no research, no photo montages, no backstory. 

And it’s fascinating. And tragic. And endearing. And maddening.

The Beales are, to put it bluntly, train wrecks.  And you can’t help but be fascinated by them, pity them, and laugh at them simultaneously.  These women had shut themselves off from the world for 30 years, allowed their mansion (and their lives) to crumble around them, and they had nobody but each other.  It’s so surreal that it belongs in a Dickens novel.  But it was real life.  It gives voyeuristic insights that are so prevalent in today’s “reality” TV, but without the sensationalism or manufactured drama that usually accompany that “reality.”

This slice-of-dysfunctional-life style of documentary filmmaking seems old hat today, but watching its roots, it’s easy to see how, in many ways, the earlier style was more effective and affecting.  Modern documentarians sometimes have difficulty leaving the camera still for long enough to actually capture life.  They want to use interesting angles and funky lighting.  This is a case when simplicity really is best.  You get to see so much behind the “glossy” façade that Big and Little Edie are trying to put on.  You can see and feel the pain, the regrets, and the love between them.

The direct cinema style shows ALL the flaws, too.  About halfway through the film, I wanted to stab both of the women in the voice box to get them to shut up.  And by the end, I was left with a strong sense of melancholy.  It was just fascinating.

In 2009, Drew Barrymore and Jessica Lange joined forced to film an HBO made-for-TV movie (which are usually quite excellently made) also called Grey Gardens.  While the HBO film does recreate some of the scenes from the documentary, they take pains to show the process that drove Big and Little Edie into the state they were in.  We start back the 20s, witnessing Little Edie’s coming out party, up through the events of the documentary and after.  The backstory adds so much to the documentary.  According to the special features, it was quite meticulously researched, and has a real ring of authenticity to it.  I get the feeling that these people’s lives didn’t need a lot of heightening to make good storytelling.

I have always said that Drew Barrymore doesn’t get enough credit for her prodigious talent (which, admittedly, is often underutilized or completely misused), and her performance in this film proves how much she deserves that respect.  Both Lange and Barrymore’s performances in this film are nothing short of astonishing.  But Barrymore, in particular, inhabits the character of Little Edie.  She rounds out the slightly two-dimensional portrayal of Little Edie that you see in the documentary.

Lange is brilliant at all.  It’s like she’s channeling the spirit of Big Edie. 

Also, huge kudos to the makeup, wardrobe, set, and art direction crews on this film.  This is Oscar-worthy work on the technical side.  I mean seriously…look at the two pictures above.  The top one is from 1975, the bottom one from 2009. Brilliant, brilliant work.

This isn’t a film for people who like neat, tied-up little packages of happiness for the closing curtain of their movies.  Much like the documentary, it’s fascinating to watch, but as an actor, I found myself constantly floored by the performances. 

I would recommend both of these films.  Watch the documentary first.  It’s available for streaming on Netflix.  The 2009 TV movie is available as a DVD from Netflix, but not streaming, unfortunately.  They are both really fascinating glimpses into the lives of two women who watched their lives crumble around them.  And it was exponentially more poignant because it wasn’t just based on reality.  It was reality.

 

Yay!  I actually completed something.  This will be the last photo meme post.  And probably the last meme I ever do (until I get bored again in about two weeks).

Day 30: A picture of someone you miss

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First things first.  Yes.  I do, in fact, have an afro in this picture.  It was for a play.  I promise.  And yes, I am, in fact, wearing a Phantom of the Opera sweatshirt.  Because I was one of “those guys” back then.

Secondly, this was my group of friend my freshman year in college: Ryan Workman, Corey Speers, Jeff Larson, and Scott Langford.  Not pictured: Frank Mayo.

I miss these guys a lot.  We had SO much fun that first year of college.  Even though, with the exception of Jeff, with whom I interact every year or so, and who actually reads this blog, I have next to no interaction with any of these folks.  I haven’t talked with Scott in probably 11 or 12 years.  But I miss them quite a bit.  Life moves on, however, and they’ve all gone their separate ways.  Ryan went to med school.  Scott is a city planner in Utah, I think.  Corey got a combination PhD/MD if memory serves. Jeff is an MBA an lives in hell Arizona working for a national pizza chain in their accounting department, I believe.  And my afro and I split up just weeks after this picture was taken.  I don’t miss the afro, but I miss being able to grow an afro.  If I tried that now, I would look like this:

So, guys, I hope you’re all doing well.  Miss interacting with you!

 

Day 29: A Picture That Can Always Make You Smile

So, I love funny pictures, and thank to the Cheezburger network, I get access to a good 30-50 new funny photos a day.  Here are a few of my favorites:

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Day 28 – A picture of something you’re afraid of
(BTW, I’m ending these with prepositions because that’s the way they were written, but just know that a small part of me dies on the inside every time I do it.)

This photo is a “hell-to-the-no” kind of photo. I have opted not to show the photo here at all.  If you want to subject yourself to the horrors of the full-sized version, you’ll need to go here.  I don’t want to accidentally stumble upon the full-sized picture if I’m ever scrolling through my blog again.

It is a photo of a big-ass spider.

I effing hate spiders.  Hate. Hate. Hate.

You can read more about my overwhelming detestation and loathing of all spider-kind here, here, here, and here.

 

Day 27: A picture of you with a family member

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Better yet, how ‘bout a picture of me with all of my immediate family members.  Including the far-away brother who is nearly done with his PhD in Sociology.  (And can I just take a moment to say how freakin’ jealous that makes me?  I should have been the first one in the family to get a PhD.  *grumble*)  Anyway…

With the family spread all over creation, and none of us with a bunch of money, it’s pretty rare that we all get together.  And it’s even rarer when there is a professional photographer to document it.  This photo was taken in the summer of 2006, I believe.  You can tell it was when I was doing Crazy for You at the Hale Centre Theatre in West Valley because there are red marks all around my mouth where I had the allergic reactions to all the spirit gum that was being used to hold my fake mustache and beard in place when I was playing the Bobby-As-Zangler part.

Before that, I think the last family photo we did was either in the late 90s.  And I apologize for the image quality.  I had to actually scan this photo into my computer with my craptastic scanner, because I don’t have a digital version of this image, since I didn’t take it.

So, this is my whole family nuclear family, with a couple of awesome in-laws thrown in for good measure.

 

Day 26 – A picture of something that means a lot to you

Sunshine, blessed sunshine.  Let the peaceful, happy moments…oh, nevermind.

Sunshine has not always been important to me.  For two years, while living in the wastelands of Arizona (sorry Jeff & Elneeta…I don’t love it down there), I would do anything to get away from the sunshine.  When you’re riding a bicycle in a suit in 125 degree heat, it can really take the love of sun out of you.

However, since moving up here to Seattle (4 years ago this Friday), my appreciation for the sun has grown by leaps and bounds.  Part of it is that we only get about 7.83 hours of sunshine a year.  The other is that sunshine here isn’t like sunshine in Arizona, or even Utah.  It doesn’t suck the life out of you.  It’s indirect enough that it is almost always an enjoyable experience to be in the sun. 

My mood is directly tied to how long it’s been since I’ve seen the sun.  (Come March, I get pretty unbearable to be around).  We’ve had several sunny days in the last week, and I’ve even had casual acquaintances remark about how I seem like I’m happier.  It’s true. 

So dear Mr. Sun.  Please don’t be a stranger this year like you were last year. Summer not starting until July 5th just don’t really work for me.

 

Day 25 – A picture of your day

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My day: Staring at a computer all @#$% day long.

I wish it were more interesting than that.  I really, really do.

 

Day 24 – A picture of something you wish you could change

I thought about this one long and hard, and wondered if I should post what I really felt or whether I should do something a little lighter, but what the heck.  I’ll post my thoughts, but I’ll not go too deep.

I wish I could change the way that being gay is viewed.  By the culture in general, but more specifically, within the LDS church.  I wish that it was just another aspect of normal. 

I hate that there’s so much fear, misunderstand, anger, hatred, contention, and judgment around it.  I hate that gay rights have to be a “cause.”  I wish I could change the pain and confusion that other boys and young men will go through as they try to make sense of it.

I have a lot of wishes around this issue…many of which I won’t discuss on this blog, but mostly, I just wish it weren’t an issue.

 

For those who are just joining this meme in progress: I was recently wondering why traffic to my blog had gone WAY down almost instantly.  I was also not getting any comments on my Facebook updates.  Turns out that Facebook made some changes to their privacy settings that broke my status updates, and I was no longer broadcasting to the world on Facebook, which is where a huge chunk of my traffic came from.  I had all of my FB friends broken up into those who could see my status updates and those who couldn’t.  (Mostly, it was to keep those “friends” who aren’t really friends or who tend to get all judgmental and preachy-preachy from having easy access to my thoughts.)  Facebook removed the ability to hide status updates based on list, and so as a result, set my status to “Show to Only Me.”  This has been resolved, and now we can expect our usual trickle of web traffic to return.

Day 23 – A picture of your favorite book

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I’m generally not one who is particularly sentimental about things, but recently, I was thinking about some traditions that are getting lost or are dying in our technological world, and it made me a little sad.   I was talking with my mom, and she said that she has my great-grandmother’s recipe collection, and I got to thinking:  When my mother passes away, which will hopefully not be for several decades, one of the things that I would most want is her recipe collection.  Boxes of cards with handwritten recipes and notes, notebooks filled with scribbled instructions and ingredients.  Food is such an important part of life, and helps to form such strong memories that having a copy of my mom’s recipes in her own handwriting would be a powerful link to my memories of her in the past.

I have a ton of recipes scattered all across various sites on the internet, most of them either recipes I found through Google searching or via some cooking experimentation of my own.  But I don’t have them collected anywhere.  I don’t even have a paper copy of my Ultimate Chocolate Chip Cookies.  So I decided that I was going to go out and buy a book to start writing down and collecting my favorite recipes. 

I tell you what: finding a recipe book is hard these days.  Nobody carries them.  Even stores like Bed, Bath, & Beyond, Sur la Table, and Williams-Sonoma don’t have any sort of recipe organization products.  On a whim, I stopped off at the local Barnes & Noble, and found the book pictured above.  It was the only recipe book they had in the entire store. I couldn’t find recipe card boxes or dividers (by food category) or those plastic sleeve protectors for 3×5 or 4×6 recipe cards. 

I think it’s sad that we’re losing our connection to our culinary heritage to such an extent that in a city like Seattle, I have to go to five different stores to find a recipe book, and that store only has one relatively ugly example.  With so many recipes available so easily, I can understand it.  But it’s sad.  There’s something special about flipping through a stack of well-worn, handwritten cards for that special meal you used to request on your birthday. 

So, my new recipe book is my favorite book.  It’s only got one recipe in it so far: my newly-perfect recipe for Caramel Pecan Rolls.  (Recipe coming in the next post!)  But I have it sitting out on the writing desk in my bedroom, and every night before I go to bed, I’m writing out another recipe. 

And mom, you better specify what happens to your recipe collection in your will, because if not, I have a feeling that Megan and I are going to come to blows over who gets it.

 

So, you may be wondering why I’m doing several of these photo meme posts a day.  There are a couple of answers to that question.  First, I fell several days behind.  Second, I’m getting kinda sick of this meme, and I want it to be over as soon as possible.  But I will finish it.  So, just be prepared for a flood of these.

Day 22 – A picture of something you wish you were better at.  (Or, if we’re being grammatically correct, A picture of something at which you wish you were better.)

I typed “self control” into Google’s image search, and this is the image that came up.  I think it pretty neatly encapsulates my self-control issues.  Self-control is not something that I’ve ever been good at, and something that I wish I could do better.  I have SC issues with food, money, hobbies, relationships, homework, practicing instruments, cleaning, exercising, etc., etc., etc.

I think I would be much less hard on myself if I felt as though I was doing the best I could be in the self-control arena.  I have a feeling that this is an area in which I’ll struggle pretty much the rest of my life.  Or, you know, I won’t struggle at all, and just give into my “THROBBING BIOLOGICAL URGES.”  (It’s a Simpson’s quote.)

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